Sept 06 2013
Well I have quit crying from pain and frustration over her actions. There is nothing I can do to change her heart. She has to want to make the change. I cant force her to love me again. All I can do is model Jesus for her. Doing that not only shows her I have changed but it changes me. The more I seek to love her the more I DO lover her. The more I seek to distance myself from her the more distant I become.
I have NOT given up faith that God is going to fix this marriage. I HAVE given up hoping that He will heal it suddenly soon. Its not that I don't think he can, its just that I CANT care when He fixes it anymore. I trust that He is moving at the speed that He needs to bring us back together again perfectly and I go on with my life as best I can.
I am getting back into the Church again. I am probably not praying enough but I do speak to almost constantly as if He were right next to me. And He speaks to me in phone calls, radio shows, things I see and hear, people stopping by and many other ways. He DOES speak clearly to me in those ways.
He spoke to me one day as I struggled to convince myself to get up and get ready to go to Church. He said "Do you think I want you to not go to Church?" I said "nooooo." He said "Then who wants to keep you away?" "Satan!?" I said. "You got it, now get moving!" he said.
The reasons for my conviction that God will put this back together? Well God says "He (God) works and who can stop Me!?" Malachi: "God HATES divorce!" Many people are praying for us....and I am not talking bout the casual prayers BUT the gray haired granny's that keep the chatter box in heaven full all the time! They WONT shut up so God has to give up for some peace! LOL
I am finding myself being drawn away from her. Lord, is that your will or am I allowing the world liar to get a foothold in my marriage again? Lord please give me wisdom to act in a way that will bring You honor! Don't let me speak without seeking Your heart first! Keep me on the straight road and filled the Peace that YOU can and will save this marriage!
Lord, please expose anything that hinders her from seeking Your will and the recovery of this marriage. Lord, lay bare the underlying causes for her hardened heart and iron will. Lord, address those issues and build her back up again. Bring her back home to You and then the family!
Amen
Friday, September 6, 2013
Wednesday, September 4, 2013
What GOD will do in a divorce!
I think I finally GOT IT!!!
I CANNOT make her ignite that spark of love for me again!
SHE has to ignite it on her own.
SHE has to see it and want it again.
SHE has to forgive me for past actions.
SHE has to have the WANT to forgive me.
SHE has to WANT to spend her life with me again.
SHE has to GET OVER THE PAIN AND HEAL HER OWN HEART!
WHEN she does THIS she will want to put the family back together.
Its that simple!
My role in all this is simple as well.
All I must do is GIVE it to GOD with JOY!
Now that sounds trite to those in pain right now and I am sorry BUT lets look closer at it!
IF you are a Christian then you know that God loves you.
IF she is a Christian then you know that God loves her.
IF this is your first marriage then you must know that God brought the two of you together for his glory.
Then you must know that what GOD put together that no man (or women) can take apart.
You also know that God states strongly in the old test the he HATES divorce.
So to put it together simply:
1) GOD put you two together
2) GOD can not lie
3) GOD can not do evil
4) GOD sees divorce as evil
5) GOD forgives ALL sins..EVERY KIND OF SIN!
6) GOD calls you to be Christ like and that requires that YOU forgive ALL those who sin against you.
7) GOD calls you to be Christ like and LOVE those that do you wrong...no choice..LOVE all.
8) GOD will not allow PEACE in the heart of a sinning Christian.
9) GOD will not allow PEACE in the heart of a Christian seeking divorce.
10) GOD is a God of restoration...look at how he restored Israel OVER and OVER again! HE LOVES IT!
11) GOD WILL restore your marriage IF YOU give him the time and get out of the way.
I know that last one is the toughy.
You want SOOOOO badly to save the family from the pain but you cant.
You think you can but you cant. I tried for over 4 months to win her back but to no avail.
I am SURE I have made a difference BUT she is dedicated to getting out.
So here is the summary of my efforts so far:
I cant make her stay with actions.
I cant make her stay with words.
I cant make her stay with works.
I cant make her stay thru prayer.
I cant make her stay with emotions.
I cant make her stay with my will.
having tried all those I have been shown by God that here is how it MUST work for HIM to work.
I have to give it to him in mind, body and heart.
How do I do this?
If you are still at the point that you cry when you see pics then you are not ready for this step.
When you have reached the point where you cant cry any more then you are ready.
Once that point is reached its time for step 2.
GIVE IT TO GOD and find joy in what you have at hand.
How do you do that?
Simple....GOD's LOVES to give us gifts!
Look to the future that GOD has for you.
It will be GREAT!
He is working on it.
If you give it to him he will fix the rust, replace the interior, re-build the engine, paint it a wonderful color and give it back to you in great shape, hot and running perfect.
Since pain, anger, rage, mis trust and other negative emotions have done nothing to improve the situation try something that WILL work.....
GOD.....he NEVER lets you down.
Give it to him...
Have you trusted your eternal soul to Him thru Jesus?
Is that not the most IMPORTANT thing you do in your life?
How much would you pay to have your kids eternal souls promised to heaven?
Everything I would wager!
If you have trusted him with your soul then it will be easy to let him have your breaking marriage.
Trust him to save it just like you did your eternal soul.
Give it to him with the same JOY that you knew the minute you were saved!
Remember the burdens that were lifted the day you were saved?
The pain fled, the peace of God rested on you.
The peace of God was in you.
Blessed assurance was your in that God was now in control of your LIFE!
Now have the blessed assurance that God is now in control of HER life...and He HATE divorce.
So sit back, love her, laugh and relax in the arms of Jesus.
He has this under control.
He NEVER lets go of what is His!
He wont let your marriage go....ever...and you must not let it go either.
Hold on and trust Him to put it back together in His time!
I hope this helps anyone out!
I CANNOT make her ignite that spark of love for me again!
SHE has to ignite it on her own.
SHE has to see it and want it again.
SHE has to forgive me for past actions.
SHE has to have the WANT to forgive me.
SHE has to WANT to spend her life with me again.
SHE has to GET OVER THE PAIN AND HEAL HER OWN HEART!
WHEN she does THIS she will want to put the family back together.
Its that simple!
My role in all this is simple as well.
All I must do is GIVE it to GOD with JOY!
Now that sounds trite to those in pain right now and I am sorry BUT lets look closer at it!
IF you are a Christian then you know that God loves you.
IF she is a Christian then you know that God loves her.
IF this is your first marriage then you must know that God brought the two of you together for his glory.
Then you must know that what GOD put together that no man (or women) can take apart.
You also know that God states strongly in the old test the he HATES divorce.
So to put it together simply:
1) GOD put you two together
2) GOD can not lie
3) GOD can not do evil
4) GOD sees divorce as evil
5) GOD forgives ALL sins..EVERY KIND OF SIN!
6) GOD calls you to be Christ like and that requires that YOU forgive ALL those who sin against you.
7) GOD calls you to be Christ like and LOVE those that do you wrong...no choice..LOVE all.
8) GOD will not allow PEACE in the heart of a sinning Christian.
9) GOD will not allow PEACE in the heart of a Christian seeking divorce.
10) GOD is a God of restoration...look at how he restored Israel OVER and OVER again! HE LOVES IT!
11) GOD WILL restore your marriage IF YOU give him the time and get out of the way.
I know that last one is the toughy.
You want SOOOOO badly to save the family from the pain but you cant.
You think you can but you cant. I tried for over 4 months to win her back but to no avail.
I am SURE I have made a difference BUT she is dedicated to getting out.
So here is the summary of my efforts so far:
I cant make her stay with actions.
I cant make her stay with words.
I cant make her stay with works.
I cant make her stay thru prayer.
I cant make her stay with emotions.
I cant make her stay with my will.
having tried all those I have been shown by God that here is how it MUST work for HIM to work.
I have to give it to him in mind, body and heart.
How do I do this?
If you are still at the point that you cry when you see pics then you are not ready for this step.
When you have reached the point where you cant cry any more then you are ready.
Once that point is reached its time for step 2.
GIVE IT TO GOD and find joy in what you have at hand.
How do you do that?
Simple....GOD's LOVES to give us gifts!
Look to the future that GOD has for you.
It will be GREAT!
He is working on it.
If you give it to him he will fix the rust, replace the interior, re-build the engine, paint it a wonderful color and give it back to you in great shape, hot and running perfect.
Since pain, anger, rage, mis trust and other negative emotions have done nothing to improve the situation try something that WILL work.....
GOD.....he NEVER lets you down.
Give it to him...
Have you trusted your eternal soul to Him thru Jesus?
Is that not the most IMPORTANT thing you do in your life?
How much would you pay to have your kids eternal souls promised to heaven?
Everything I would wager!
If you have trusted him with your soul then it will be easy to let him have your breaking marriage.
Trust him to save it just like you did your eternal soul.
Give it to him with the same JOY that you knew the minute you were saved!
Remember the burdens that were lifted the day you were saved?
The pain fled, the peace of God rested on you.
The peace of God was in you.
Blessed assurance was your in that God was now in control of your LIFE!
Now have the blessed assurance that God is now in control of HER life...and He HATE divorce.
So sit back, love her, laugh and relax in the arms of Jesus.
He has this under control.
He NEVER lets go of what is His!
He wont let your marriage go....ever...and you must not let it go either.
Hold on and trust Him to put it back together in His time!
I hope this helps anyone out!
Wednesday, August 28, 2013
Aug 28th 2013:
The weight of the burden I carry bows my back, weakens my legs, crushes my spine.
The weights of life
There are hard times in life
Filled with sorrow, pain and stife
The carefree days dim and wane
Replaced with days of fear and pain
Joy and love fade from your face
As sorrow and hate take their place
Security and peace cant be found
When fear and rage are all around
Grace and mercy will not stand fast
Under the shadow unforgiveness cast
The most faithful servant withers and dies
Drained of life under distrust's weary eyes
When these weights of life are chained to you
Your once peaceful happy walk thru life is thru
Each second is measured by each breath you take
As your heart crieds out for a single seconds break
But we must carry these heavy weights on this bitter trek
Searching for an ending to this life that seems a wreck
To be continued.......
Please note that God WILL heal the broken heart, life, soul, spirit BUT it takes TIME!!!
Give him TIME so that he CAN keep his promise.
With God ALL things are possible....
ALL, ALL, ALL, ALL, ALL, ALL, ALL, ALL THINGS are possible!
Not just some or some IF THEN situation!
IF she does this THEN God can do this....
NO! That is not what it says!
It says Ask and you shall receive thru faith!
God will NOT take over a persons body to make them do his will like a zombie.
He has many other ways of doing it....
I will explain later!
Keep STANDING for YOUR marriage under Gods promises and GOD will honor your faith!
The weight of the burden I carry bows my back, weakens my legs, crushes my spine.
The weights of life
There are hard times in life
Filled with sorrow, pain and stife
The carefree days dim and wane
Replaced with days of fear and pain
Joy and love fade from your face
As sorrow and hate take their place
Security and peace cant be found
When fear and rage are all around
Grace and mercy will not stand fast
Under the shadow unforgiveness cast
The most faithful servant withers and dies
Drained of life under distrust's weary eyes
When these weights of life are chained to you
Your once peaceful happy walk thru life is thru
Each second is measured by each breath you take
As your heart crieds out for a single seconds break
But we must carry these heavy weights on this bitter trek
Searching for an ending to this life that seems a wreck
To be continued.......
Please note that God WILL heal the broken heart, life, soul, spirit BUT it takes TIME!!!
Give him TIME so that he CAN keep his promise.
With God ALL things are possible....
ALL, ALL, ALL, ALL, ALL, ALL, ALL, ALL THINGS are possible!
Not just some or some IF THEN situation!
IF she does this THEN God can do this....
NO! That is not what it says!
It says Ask and you shall receive thru faith!
God will NOT take over a persons body to make them do his will like a zombie.
He has many other ways of doing it....
I will explain later!
Keep STANDING for YOUR marriage under Gods promises and GOD will honor your faith!
Monday, August 26, 2013
August 26, 2013
We had a good/bad weekend together. We spent all weekend with the kids together playing and laughing. I tried to make it stress free for her but I could not. I could not help feeling like I was eating my last meal WITH the gallows master about to hang me and he kept asking why so glum? Why can’t you just loosen up and have FUN! It’s hard to explain. She WANTS to spend time with myself and the kids AND she WANTS to leave me BUT still spend time with myself and the kids AFTER she leaves......Hmmmm....Seems as if someone is confused about what they want.
No matter! She IS praying for Gods guidance and HE is not letting her have a moments rest about it! SHE wants to make SURE she is doing the right thing and HE is telling her that it is NOT the right thing and SHE is going ahead with it anyway! Ha Ha Ha! The PAIN train is on her tracks and she is feeling the heat! Not that I am rejoicing in her pain but I can’t help but to be amazed at the amount of resistance she is giving God to make this happen.
Once again, no matter, GOD WILL break her down. GOD WILL sweep her up. GOD WILL fix her heart. GOD WILL bring her back to himself. GOD WILL bring her back to the family! It’s THAT simple!
He promised
I asked
I believed
He worked
He blessed
I received
The word of God is simply this. IF you give it to God with the faith that God will work it out, not for YOUR will, but for HIS glory, HE will have his way. Just the fact that I gave her the option of taking the kids without me yesterday and she almost begging me to come along gives PROOF that she WANTS to try and build this up and that GOD is drowning her in doubt. That doubt is eating her alive! She KNOWS that she is NOT in his will. She KNOWS that he wants us to stay together. She KNOWS that he HATES divorce. She KNOWS that she is running to find a place of peace that is only going to give pain and loneliness.
She wants to find peace in a PLACE. She can only find peace inside her person! She looks for self respect by breaking the trust of her children. They never fear that mommy or daddy won’t be there one day and now she is the one making that fear reality for them. When she realizes this her self respect will plummet. She thinks that by moving out into her own place she will be able to sort out her thoughts. She will only find loneliness when I have the kids and she comes home to an empty house full of silence and stillness. She will find that her thoughts do not take THAT much space and place to sort thru.
It may sound self-righteous, but I have taken a DEEP long look at myself and deep down inside I am a Christian. God speaks to me ALL the time. I don’t hear it 99.999% of the time BUT the voice still whispers in my ear. Its like a single strand of spider web brushing across the ear as it floats by....you feel it for a split second, you reach up to see what it is and its gone....not there and you wonder if it was ever there. That is how HE speaks to me. That is what I hear. Whispers, nudges, faint voices from far away. I yearn to hear His voice clearly guiding me but He cant or wont work that way for me.
The same applies to her. She IS a child of Christ. She has a HEART for Christ. She has become jaded by workload and by what I have done to her over time. The two combined to form a deadly pool in her soul. Now God must drain the pool and clean the soul in order for her to come to herself again. She WANTS to, she longs to, she fights to, she fears to.
One day soon God's work in her heart will be completed. She will find freedom by submitting to his mastery, by giving it ALL to Him to care for. Once she does this and listens to his voice she will find the peace to put the family back together.
I am not so blind as to NOT see that GOD might be waiting on ME to see something as well...but I can fix that easy enough!
Loving Father on your perfect throne of love, mercy, and forgiveness.
Please forgive me of my many sins over the past weekend. Please search me and bring those sins that I have not repented for to my mind so I can seek the forgiveness needed to make wide the path I walk with you on. I need the path so wide that I can walk WITH Jesus, not ahead of him or behind him. AMEM.
Lord, please let me know if there is something I still need to learn in this ongoing battle WE (You, Lori, me and satan) are having with divorce. Am I hindering the widening of the path the Lori is taking back to YOUR will? Am I doing something OR NOT doing something that needs done to meet a goal or goals that you require before you can or will move us closer to coming back together? If I am missing something please make it bright and clear to me as well as the way to bring it inline with your will! Please Lord, don’t let me be the hindrance to bringing this painful chapter in our life’s to a swift close. Lord, I cannot do anything alone BUT I can do anything THRU you! Lord, heal my marriage, heal my wife, heal my kids, and heal me. Lord I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that YOU are going to restore this marriage and family. You would NOT have given me this amazing desire and drive the see it thru if you had not intended from the beginning to put it back together. I thank you for being a faithful God who honors His word.
Mark 9:23 "If you can?" said Jesus. "EVERYTHING is possible for one who believes."
Philippians 4:13 "I can do anything thru Christ who strengthens me."
Matthew 19:26 "with GOD all things are possible."
Mark 10:27 "for with God all things are possible."
Luke 1:37 "For with God nothing shall be impossible."
Matthew 7:7 "Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you."
John 5:14-15 “We are quite confident that if we ask Him for anything, and it is in accordance with His will, He will hear us; and knowing that whatever we ask, He hears us, we know that we have already been granted what we asked of Him.”
James 5:13 “If any one of you is in trouble, he should pray; if anyone is feeling happy, he should sing a psalm.”
Matthew 18:19-20 “If two of you on earth agree to ask anything at all, it will be granted by my Father in heaven. For where two or three meet in my name, I shall be there with them.”
Philippians 4:6-7 “There is no need to worry; but if there is anything you need, pray for it, asking God for it with prayer and thanksgiving, and that peace of God, which is so much greater than we can understand, will guard your hearts and your thoughts, in Christ Jesus.”
Matthew 17:20 "And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you."
Mark 11:24 "Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive [them], and ye shall have [them]."
Job 42:2 "I know that thou canst do every [thing], and [that] no thought can be withholden from thee."
Genesis 18:14 "Is any thing too hard for the LORD?"
Jeremiah 32:17 "Ah Lord GOD! behold, thou hast made the heaven and the earth by thy great power and stretched out arm, [and] there is nothing too hard for thee"
Isaiah 46:10 "Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times [the things] that are not [yet] done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and I will do all my pleasure:"
Proverbs 3:6 "In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths."
Your word is CLEAR! If I BELIEVE YOU WILL DELIVER! Lord, I AM CERTAIN that our marriage WILL survive this onslaught by the evil one. I AM CERTAIN that YOU will deliver her again to the family. I AM CERTAIN that you are, right now, preparing her heart to unite with mine again. I AM CERTAIN that there is NOTHING going to stop YOU from bringing this to pass!
Lord please bless us and guide our ways thru this learning experience today. Lord, lead my path, guide my heart, still my tongue, and shield my mind today so that I am able, at the end of the day, to declare my life, for this day, as a victory for you! AMEN!!!
So there it is...the road looks rough but God is smooth!
The way looks long but God has a long reach!
The path looks painful but God is the great healer!
God, please take my marriage, family and life today and use it to bring glory and honor to YOU! Amen!
We had a good/bad weekend together. We spent all weekend with the kids together playing and laughing. I tried to make it stress free for her but I could not. I could not help feeling like I was eating my last meal WITH the gallows master about to hang me and he kept asking why so glum? Why can’t you just loosen up and have FUN! It’s hard to explain. She WANTS to spend time with myself and the kids AND she WANTS to leave me BUT still spend time with myself and the kids AFTER she leaves......Hmmmm....Seems as if someone is confused about what they want.
No matter! She IS praying for Gods guidance and HE is not letting her have a moments rest about it! SHE wants to make SURE she is doing the right thing and HE is telling her that it is NOT the right thing and SHE is going ahead with it anyway! Ha Ha Ha! The PAIN train is on her tracks and she is feeling the heat! Not that I am rejoicing in her pain but I can’t help but to be amazed at the amount of resistance she is giving God to make this happen.
Once again, no matter, GOD WILL break her down. GOD WILL sweep her up. GOD WILL fix her heart. GOD WILL bring her back to himself. GOD WILL bring her back to the family! It’s THAT simple!
He promised
I asked
I believed
He worked
He blessed
I received
The word of God is simply this. IF you give it to God with the faith that God will work it out, not for YOUR will, but for HIS glory, HE will have his way. Just the fact that I gave her the option of taking the kids without me yesterday and she almost begging me to come along gives PROOF that she WANTS to try and build this up and that GOD is drowning her in doubt. That doubt is eating her alive! She KNOWS that she is NOT in his will. She KNOWS that he wants us to stay together. She KNOWS that he HATES divorce. She KNOWS that she is running to find a place of peace that is only going to give pain and loneliness.
She wants to find peace in a PLACE. She can only find peace inside her person! She looks for self respect by breaking the trust of her children. They never fear that mommy or daddy won’t be there one day and now she is the one making that fear reality for them. When she realizes this her self respect will plummet. She thinks that by moving out into her own place she will be able to sort out her thoughts. She will only find loneliness when I have the kids and she comes home to an empty house full of silence and stillness. She will find that her thoughts do not take THAT much space and place to sort thru.
It may sound self-righteous, but I have taken a DEEP long look at myself and deep down inside I am a Christian. God speaks to me ALL the time. I don’t hear it 99.999% of the time BUT the voice still whispers in my ear. Its like a single strand of spider web brushing across the ear as it floats by....you feel it for a split second, you reach up to see what it is and its gone....not there and you wonder if it was ever there. That is how HE speaks to me. That is what I hear. Whispers, nudges, faint voices from far away. I yearn to hear His voice clearly guiding me but He cant or wont work that way for me.
The same applies to her. She IS a child of Christ. She has a HEART for Christ. She has become jaded by workload and by what I have done to her over time. The two combined to form a deadly pool in her soul. Now God must drain the pool and clean the soul in order for her to come to herself again. She WANTS to, she longs to, she fights to, she fears to.
One day soon God's work in her heart will be completed. She will find freedom by submitting to his mastery, by giving it ALL to Him to care for. Once she does this and listens to his voice she will find the peace to put the family back together.
I am not so blind as to NOT see that GOD might be waiting on ME to see something as well...but I can fix that easy enough!
Loving Father on your perfect throne of love, mercy, and forgiveness.
Please forgive me of my many sins over the past weekend. Please search me and bring those sins that I have not repented for to my mind so I can seek the forgiveness needed to make wide the path I walk with you on. I need the path so wide that I can walk WITH Jesus, not ahead of him or behind him. AMEM.
Lord, please let me know if there is something I still need to learn in this ongoing battle WE (You, Lori, me and satan) are having with divorce. Am I hindering the widening of the path the Lori is taking back to YOUR will? Am I doing something OR NOT doing something that needs done to meet a goal or goals that you require before you can or will move us closer to coming back together? If I am missing something please make it bright and clear to me as well as the way to bring it inline with your will! Please Lord, don’t let me be the hindrance to bringing this painful chapter in our life’s to a swift close. Lord, I cannot do anything alone BUT I can do anything THRU you! Lord, heal my marriage, heal my wife, heal my kids, and heal me. Lord I KNOW beyond a shadow of a doubt that YOU are going to restore this marriage and family. You would NOT have given me this amazing desire and drive the see it thru if you had not intended from the beginning to put it back together. I thank you for being a faithful God who honors His word.
Mark 9:23 "If you can?" said Jesus. "EVERYTHING is possible for one who believes."
Philippians 4:13 "I can do anything thru Christ who strengthens me."
Matthew 19:26 "with GOD all things are possible."
Mark 10:27 "for with God all things are possible."
Luke 1:37 "For with God nothing shall be impossible."
Matthew 7:7 "Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you."
John 5:14-15 “We are quite confident that if we ask Him for anything, and it is in accordance with His will, He will hear us; and knowing that whatever we ask, He hears us, we know that we have already been granted what we asked of Him.”
James 5:13 “If any one of you is in trouble, he should pray; if anyone is feeling happy, he should sing a psalm.”
Matthew 18:19-20 “If two of you on earth agree to ask anything at all, it will be granted by my Father in heaven. For where two or three meet in my name, I shall be there with them.”
Philippians 4:6-7 “There is no need to worry; but if there is anything you need, pray for it, asking God for it with prayer and thanksgiving, and that peace of God, which is so much greater than we can understand, will guard your hearts and your thoughts, in Christ Jesus.”
Matthew 17:20 "And Jesus said unto them, Because of your unbelief: for verily I say unto you, If ye have faith as a grain of mustard seed, ye shall say unto this mountain, Remove hence to yonder place; and it shall remove; and nothing shall be impossible unto you."
Mark 11:24 "Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive [them], and ye shall have [them]."
Job 42:2 "I know that thou canst do every [thing], and [that] no thought can be withholden from thee."
Genesis 18:14 "Is any thing too hard for the LORD?"
Jeremiah 32:17 "Ah Lord GOD! behold, thou hast made the heaven and the earth by thy great power and stretched out arm, [and] there is nothing too hard for thee"
Isaiah 46:10 "Declaring the end from the beginning, and from ancient times [the things] that are not [yet] done, saying, My counsel shall stand, and I will do all my pleasure:"
Proverbs 3:6 "In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths."
Your word is CLEAR! If I BELIEVE YOU WILL DELIVER! Lord, I AM CERTAIN that our marriage WILL survive this onslaught by the evil one. I AM CERTAIN that YOU will deliver her again to the family. I AM CERTAIN that you are, right now, preparing her heart to unite with mine again. I AM CERTAIN that there is NOTHING going to stop YOU from bringing this to pass!
Lord please bless us and guide our ways thru this learning experience today. Lord, lead my path, guide my heart, still my tongue, and shield my mind today so that I am able, at the end of the day, to declare my life, for this day, as a victory for you! AMEN!!!
So there it is...the road looks rough but God is smooth!
The way looks long but God has a long reach!
The path looks painful but God is the great healer!
God, please take my marriage, family and life today and use it to bring glory and honor to YOU! Amen!
Friday, August 23, 2013
Free will and GOD
Aug 23, 2013
GOD is no respecter of persons.
What he has done for others, he will do for me, but it takes faith.
The kind of faith that looks at the circumstances and says, “So what, what does it matter what she says, does, or thinks?” Your wife has been taken captive by satan to do his will.
He is whispering in her ear, guiding her heart and mind away from GOD.
You have a choice of believing what comes out of your wife’s mouth or what the Word of GOD says.
My GOD tells me that with Him NOTHING is impossible….does not make any exceptions there about your wife’s “WILL.”
Let those words sink in. “With GOD ALL THING, ALL THINGS, ALL THINGS, ALL THINGS are possible.”
GOD tells us that whatsoever we will (ask), believing (it will be done), and it shall be done for us.
Do you notice any clause in your Bible that prohibits GOD from acting?
Does it say that whatsoever we will, as long as we don’t cuss, lust, cheat, lie, steal, or sin in general, and it shall be done?
No, it is very clear, WITH GOD ALL THINGS, not some things, no only what you have earned thru prayer or service or being good, but ALL things.
We can translate “ALL” to everything GOD loves and NOTHING GOD hates!
We know in scriptures that GOD clearly states “I HATE DIVORCE!”
When GOD declares something that strongly you can take it to the bank that he will oppose it when his children ask that it be removed, healed or stopped.
So can a simple thing like a person's WILL stop GOD from acting on a faithful prayer based on scriptural foundation?
Only if you throw out Isaiah’s words “I WORK AND WHO CAN HINDER ME?”
Can a wife hinder HIS plans?
Can a judge null and void HIS plans?
Can a lawyer argue away HIS plans?
Can a lover sway with words of honey, HIS plans?
Can a friend advise away HIS plans?
Can a family push away HIS plans?
NO!!! None one can slow, stop, delay, divert, hinder, avert, re-route, undo, thwart or stall GOD plan!
And GOD’s plan NEVER contains divorce because it’s evil and GOD cannot tolerate evil in any form.
So there it is!
GOD WILL heal your marriage when YOUR faith lines up to HIS will for your marriage!
GOD is no respecter of persons.
What he has done for others, he will do for me, but it takes faith.
The kind of faith that looks at the circumstances and says, “So what, what does it matter what she says, does, or thinks?” Your wife has been taken captive by satan to do his will.
He is whispering in her ear, guiding her heart and mind away from GOD.
You have a choice of believing what comes out of your wife’s mouth or what the Word of GOD says.
My GOD tells me that with Him NOTHING is impossible….does not make any exceptions there about your wife’s “WILL.”
Let those words sink in. “With GOD ALL THING, ALL THINGS, ALL THINGS, ALL THINGS are possible.”
GOD tells us that whatsoever we will (ask), believing (it will be done), and it shall be done for us.
Do you notice any clause in your Bible that prohibits GOD from acting?
Does it say that whatsoever we will, as long as we don’t cuss, lust, cheat, lie, steal, or sin in general, and it shall be done?
No, it is very clear, WITH GOD ALL THINGS, not some things, no only what you have earned thru prayer or service or being good, but ALL things.
We can translate “ALL” to everything GOD loves and NOTHING GOD hates!
We know in scriptures that GOD clearly states “I HATE DIVORCE!”
When GOD declares something that strongly you can take it to the bank that he will oppose it when his children ask that it be removed, healed or stopped.
So can a simple thing like a person's WILL stop GOD from acting on a faithful prayer based on scriptural foundation?
Only if you throw out Isaiah’s words “I WORK AND WHO CAN HINDER ME?”
Can a wife hinder HIS plans?
Can a judge null and void HIS plans?
Can a lawyer argue away HIS plans?
Can a lover sway with words of honey, HIS plans?
Can a friend advise away HIS plans?
Can a family push away HIS plans?
NO!!! None one can slow, stop, delay, divert, hinder, avert, re-route, undo, thwart or stall GOD plan!
And GOD’s plan NEVER contains divorce because it’s evil and GOD cannot tolerate evil in any form.
So there it is!
GOD WILL heal your marriage when YOUR faith lines up to HIS will for your marriage!
Uconditonal Love is when YOU.....
August 23rd 2013
18 weeks ago my life’s partner said she wanted out. Shocked, stunned,
and confused my world crumbled! Now to be fair she did not just drop this on me
out of the blue. For many years I was cold and distant to her in an effort to
get her to share the financial information with me. I have always worried about
saving money for the kids and retirement. She has always fought me on it. I
tried many ways to get her to let me in but all failed so I devised a plan to
shut her emotionally like she shut me out financially. Well it BACKFIRED big
time!
Now she says she loves me but not like a
wife should love her husband. She has bought a house and will be moving out
soon. She asked that I work with her on filing for DIS. I have done all these
things with as little resistance as I could manage because fighting for her to
STAY against her will will only make her more determined to go. Showing her
unconditional love will give her more reason to stay than to go. And that is
what I am doing, giving her unconditional love.
UL is when YOU give the robber your watch when he demands your wallet.
UL is when YOU carry the soldiers pack 2
miles instead of 1.
UL is when YOU give a stranger who asks
for your shirt your jacket as well.
UL is when YOU offer the right cheek after
the left has been slapped.
UL is when YOU help her pack the kids
stuff when SHE wants to leave you.
UL is when YOU look at homes for sale she
wants to buy to leave with her.
UL is when YOU help her bring home
furniture for HER new home so she does not have to hire movers.
UL is when YOU don’t fight her WHEN she
asks for a divorce.
UL is when YOU don’t make the divorce a
battleground that all that enter get wounded in.
UL is when YOU rub her feet and legs every
night so she can relax knowing she is leaving you anyway.
UL is when YOU decide to let HER go and
make a vow to be there when she comes back.
UL is when YOU tell her that YOU love her
no matter where she goes or what she does.
UL is when YOU vow to never seek another
lover as long as she lives and prepare for a long, lonely life,
UL is when YOU make sure that the home she
is moving to is comfortable for her and the kids.
UL is when YOU do ALL these things KNOWING
that she IS leaving no matter what.
UL is when YOU make a promise to GOD that
YOU will wait for his plan to unfold without losing faith.
UL is when YOU make a pledge to not harbor
anger, bitterness, resent, pain, and distrust towards her.
UL is when YOU give your word that you
WILL take her back WHEN she comes back.
UL is when YOU let her go to GOD and let
HIM deal with her heart, mind, and spirit.
UL is when YOU pray that she find peace
and joy in the Lord no matter what road she takes.
UL is when YOU speak daily words of love
to her KNOWING that they will not be returned.
UL is when YOU assure her that you love
HER for who she is but that you HATE what she is doing.
UL is when YOU cherish each second with
her knowing that someday soon she will be gone.
UL is when YOU choose to NEVER let anger
loose when SHE seeks to destroy all YOU have built.
UL is when YOU remember that she is the
same person you fell in love with years ago.
UL is when YOU make the choice to be like
Jesus to her when she treats YOU like the devil.
UL is when YOU purpose to give her freedom
from you in her vain attempt to find her freedom.
UL is when YOU keep your mouth closed when
you want to scream words of pain and anger at her.
UL is when YOU push self down and lift her
up to GOD's throne asking for him to forgive her.
UL is when YOU purge all anger from your
heart and let the love of Christ flow freely from your heart.
UL is when YOU trust GOD's plan to save or
recreate your marriage no matter how dark the road is.
UL is when YOU die to self and live for
your family not matter what the cost to YOU!
Now is the time of Job!
All is taken from you.
The dogs of anguish rend your soul.
The worms of rage scar your heart.
The snakes of doubt poison your mind.
The lion of fear feasts on your flesh.
I know, I am there now!
BUT thru it all there is ONE thing that is constant!
One thing that will NEVER change!
One truth that cannot be overlooked!
That is GOD and JESUS HATE divorce....period!
And if YOU are praying to GOD thru JESUS to protect or restore your marriage with faith and patience IT WILL BE DONE! Period, end of story, good bye!
Thursday, August 22, 2013
CAN GOD heal a marriage?
Aug 22, 2013
Will God heal a marriage?
According to Biblical text he will.
“Whatever you ask for, thru Jesus Christ,
God will do” is the most often Bible quote I have seen on the subject of can
God do something.
Many a learned Biblical student has told
me that verse is great BUT it does NOT discount HER free will to make up her
mind to leave.
So where does that leave the Bible
verse?
Watered down, limp, shallow, weak! Is God
bound to just sit back and wait for everyone to get close to him before he can
get close to them?
What is He? A trap God….If ONLY he/she would get just a LITTLE
closer I could GRAB them! I can’t image God saying “well, I WOULD have given
him his hearts desire for a saved marriage BUT SHE would not listen to me when
I pleaded with her to give him another chance Boo Hoo Hoo”!
HOGWASH!
That does NOT sound like the all powerful God that controls
matter, time, and space with mere thoughts!
Is God SOOO weak that a pouting, angry,
hurting, self distancing, backsliding Christian that will not listen to his
voice, ignores his warnings, does not seeks his guidance and shuts his words
out can stifle HIS will and plans?
Hmmmm, that thinking would render pathetic the bible verse that
says “that NOTHING can stop God from performing his will!”
So WHAT does God think about Divorce?
Well we KNOW he HATES divorce!
Bible states it. I believe it! That
settles it!
Marriage is the earthly image of Jesus and
the Church!
Satan HATES anything that glorifies Jesus
and the Church! Satan love divorce. Satan hates marriage under God. He hates it,
I love it! That settles it!
God invented marriage right from the
start!
Right after he called all things very
good...BEFORE evil there was the marriage! So God created it in the absence of
evil? It could NOT have existed in His presents at that time had there been any
shadow of a sin in it! It was perfect! He took from Adam and made Eve. He took
one being and made 2. After sin this was reversed, 2 NOW became one. So God
made it first, before sin, then after sin he preserved it as a union. He must
have REALLY liked it to keep it after the fall! Divorce is only mentioned with
sin. Divorce is NEVER mentioned with blessings.
Marriage brings God glory thru children!
It is pointed out time and again in
scriptures that Children are a blessing, glory, and honor. Well the devil
doesn’t bless, glory or honor anything! So God must endorse marriage!
God will not bless unforgiveness!
Divorce is the ULTIMATE unforgiveness!
Jesus forgave those that stripped the flesh off his bones, beat him, mocked
him, spit in his face, drove spikes into his hands and feet and hung him on a
cross to die in agony! What were some of his LAST words? "Forgiven them
Father"!
IF we are to follow Jesus and his example then we MUST to be able
to forgive anyone. This is critical for marriage! Two flawed sinners living
together 24/7 are GOING to make mistakes! They are going to do it and not even
realize it, maybe for years! But there MUST be forgiveness!
Let’s not let satan twist Gods forgiveness
thru Jesus. Let’s say that Jesus forgave John for cussing and claiming to not
know him BUT would not let John come around him anymore because of it? Is that
TRUE forgiveness?
What if one of the soldiers that beat, abuse and killed Jesus repented
and asked Jesus into his heart years after Jesus’ death? When the murder got to
heaven would Jesus yell at him from a distance "Glad you made it, stay
away from me"! No, Jesus was a forgive, forget, come over her and lets hug
kind of guy? He would NEVER leave a repented, sanctified, forgiven sinner
alone. No, he would have gone to them, hugged them, held their hand, inviting
them to become intimate with him again. Since divorce is unforgiveness then we
know that God is not in it.
So there it is!
YES God will heal a marriage!
If ONE of you is praying that God will
heal the marriage thru faith then God WILL heal the marriage IN faith!
Just keep reminding yourself that it HAS
to be done in HIS time and on HIS terms, not yours!
Don’t be fooled into thinking that God is going to run up, smack
them up side the head with the fools mallet and tell them to run back to you. It’s
going to take HIS time and in that time your faith WILL be tested, your
strength WILL fail, your heart WILL break, your mind WILL leave you tired and
spent BUT…….BUT the work is ALREADY done thru Jesus!
They prayed it.
You believed it.
Jesus heard it.
God did it!
Simple Prayer:
Father in heaven, maker of all
creation.
Thank you for your only son, Jesus Christ
and he death, burial, and resurrection. Thanks you for taking my sins away for
all time!
Thank you Jesus for your willingness to die for ALL our
sins!
Lord please hear my cry and heal my
marriage! My faith is weak and I doubt.
Please God, make my faith STRONG, and
remove my doubt!
Give me JOY in knowing that you are not
sitting idle waiting on our next moves! You are moving in our hearts and
minds to heal the pains, bind the wounds, and soften the hearts! Your plan
is in motion as we speak! Every minute that passes is one less minute we have
to wait for our reunion! Every day brings us one day closer to our rebirth as a
strong, mature, faithful couple.
Lord, pour your love, grace, mercy, forgiveness
and peace into BOTH our hearts and souls! Give us pause in all we are doing to
stop and first ask for YOUR guidance, YOUR will, YOUR voice!
Lord, I PRAY for this marriage to be
saved! This prayer IS inline with YOUR written word and holy will!
Lord give me the heart of Jesus to model
perfect peace, joy and confidence that you have ALREADY heard my cry, seen my
tears, pulled me close, taken my burden, broken my yoke, loosed my chains, cut
my ropes, softened her heart, healed her wounds, lifted our eyes, united our
spirits, re-joined our hearts AND SAVED MY MARRIAGE!
Lord the hard work is already done, please give me the patience to
sit by the door and watch the road with peace, love, and joy knowing that any
second the prodigal spouse will loom small on the horizon as she follows the
road YOU have laid before her back to me.
Then my feet will take wing as I run with all my might, heart
pumping, tears flowing, arms wide, and voice shouting Glory to God in the
highest! Nothing is impossible with God and Jesus!
And then I will wrap her in my arms and pour my love out over her
in waves of tearful joy. Savoring the words she whispers that I so longed to
hear…. “I love you, I love you, I love you!”
Lord,
Where she has distrust give trust.
Where she has pain give her peace.
Where she is wounded heal her.
Where she has lost her faith show her
faithfulness.
Where she desires love pour your heart out
on her.
Where she desires freedom show her the
true freedom that only YOU can give.
Where she longs for hope give her YOUR
spirit.
Where she seeks to hide form you give her
your light.
It is settled! GOD WILL save your marriage
BUT only AFTER YOU get right with him! Get yourself
into the Bible, a Church, prayer, and Jesus.
Let GOD worry, fret, cry, fear, rage, quake,
and fatigue at the process of healing! I know he does not do ANY of those
because HE is GOD and he has already established that HIS will be done in the
area of marriage. He fears nothing because everything does as he commands!
Simple truth!!!
He PUT the desire to WANT to work it out
in YOUR heart!
You PRAY that GOD will diligently work to
save it!
Let HIM put the desire in the wayward spouse’s
heart to work it out, just like he did YOURS!
YOU BELIEVE He will get it done.
YOU TRUST He will get it done.
YOU WAIT for Him to get it done.
YOU REJOICE RIGHT NOW that He has ALREADY
healed your marriage in the future and it will be done!
It is SOOOO important that YOU not give in and give up! At YOUR darkest hour is when you need the most LIGHT and Jesus is the LIGHT of the world. Hold on and pray thru! Years may have to pass before Gods plan is fulfilled. Remember, About the time you give up or give in God will be ready to step up and step in!
If you can wait it out it will be more wonderful than you ever dreamed it COULD be!
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